UTIs after sex are clearly very common, yet for some reason, people tend not to talk about it much. So I thought, why don’t I help get the conversation rolling?
I promise it’s a good story, but if you’re not up for a read right now, jump to the bottom to see my general tips and more on the products I use to prevent UTIs after sex.
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- UTIs After Sex – When It Really Kicked In. >>>>
- Should My Partner Be Tested For UTI? >>>>
- Antibiotics Didn’t Stop The UTIs After Sex. >>>>
- The Day I Had A UTI Related Run-In With The Police. >>>>
- What I’ve Learned About UTIs After Sex. >>>>
I distinctly remember my first UTI. It was an isolated incident that happened long before my year of hell that saw me through nine or ten. I like to think of it as the time when I was gloriously unaware that UTIs after sex were really a thing.
I had a boyfriend who worked nights so finding moments to shag could be difficult. On this occasion we had sex three times at intervals during the night and I was basically asleep – that type of dreamy, warm copulation that is closely followed by more slumber.
Needless to say, I did not bother going to the toilet. No Sir, it was straight back to sleep for me.
“The next day I awoke busting to pee, but upon urination found that I was still BUSTING! So uncomfortable, and so weird.”
I went straight to the doctor, he informed me I had contracted a UTI due to my failure to clear my urethra of bacteria after sex.
Ok got it.
UTIs after sex prevention tip 1: Always pee immediately after sex.
After sharing this advice, my doctor then issued me with a single pill.
It was like some wondrous, fairytale magic. That was that, no blood, no more discomfort – just done and dusted.
UTIs After Sex – When It Really Kicked In
Years later all was forgotten, including my shift working boyfriend, and I found myself in another relationship with a man who could literally go for hours.
We’re brought up to believe this is the ultimate quality in a lover but apparently excessive friction coupled with a short and narrow urethra does not equate to the best sex of your life – to the contrary this was arguably the worst year of my life.
“I began to realise that every time I had sex, I would get another UTI. UTIs after sex had officially become my modus operandi and post coital intimacy had been replaced by me sitting on a toilet trying to force a decent stream of urine from my body.”
I couldn’t help but wonder why it was happening in this relationship and not others? I’d been in long term relationships and had never had this ongoing problem.
Was my boyfriend carrying bacteria that was reinfecting me each time we had sex? Was something happening in my own body that was causing some kind of imbalance in my urinary tract?
Should My Partner Be Tested For UTI?
I’ve since learned that it is indeed possible for bacteria to be passed back and forth between partners during sex. If you think about it, that makes perfect sense – this is exactly how STIs occur, so why not other organisms?
If I knew this at the time, I would have considered whether my partner should have been tested. For males this can mean both urine and semen tests, as bacteria can reside in the urinary tract and/or the prostate.
It’s entirely possible for males to carry bacteria without experiencing symptoms, so they wouldn’t necessarily know they were contributing to your own symptoms. Same sex partners can of course pass organisms back and forth too – that’s one area that is truly equal.
UTIs after sex prevention tip 2: Consider whether your partner should also be tested.
Strangely, my boyfriend’s housemate also began to experience recurrent UTIs. That got me thinking about the environment in their share house, or their drinking water or possibly my boyfriend’s fidelity! It seemed like way too much of a coincidence for this to be happening to both of us at the same time.
Learn more about UTI and sex and getting your partner tested in our expert video series.
Antibiotics Didn’t Stop The UTIs After Sex
I was blasting through UTI after UTI and countless courses of antibiotics, resulting in an eventual prescription for prophylactic antibiotics to be taken twice a day for two months, just in case…
“UTIs must follow Murphy’s law because goddamn is there ever a worse time to get one than when they turn up? ‘Hi, it’s me! I thought I’d drop by. I know it’s 11pm on a Sunday night before a public holiday but I just had to come!’.”
During this year of my life they came in blood splattered, painful waves as I went from after hours doctor to after hours doctor, trying to work out WTF was going on!?
I never presented any UTI symptoms when I actually saw my regular doctor which resulted in every urine culture test coming back negative.
This was probably due to the fact that the testing lab was only open during normal business hours – by which time I had already taken antibiotics.
UTIs after sex prevention tip 3: If you are likely to need to provide a urine sample, try not to take antibiotics first, as they can render your urine sterile (according to standard culture). You can either keep a sterile container at home or choose to grit your teeth and wait it out until you can get to a doctor.
Now I know how inaccurate urine tests can be. I would have pushed for better testing had I known then.
My own doctor assured me that women “just got them.”
I became “that person” – Googling and Googling, and trying absolutely EVERYTHING. Spoonfuls of cream of tartar, tea made from cornsilk, cranberries coming out my wazoo and nothing… No relief, no end in sight, just stress, while the weight dropped off me.
The Day I Had A UTI Related Run-In With The Police
I’m sure the weight thing sounds good to some, but this was extreme. I had given up sugar due to it being a Life Coach to bacteria, and I was literally climbing the walls.
“I was afraid, terrified that there was no escape and most definitely no definitive answer to why the hell this was happening. Would I suffer from UTIs after sex for the rest of my life?”
I was eventually referred to a urologist who told me he’d take a look inside my bladder to see if anything else was happening (a cystoscopy).
He also told me that after the procedure many women never have another UTI, as the camera can enlarge the urethra, thereby not allowing it to further clog with nasty bacteria. (It turns out this is just a theory, without any hard evidence to back it up). Thanks Urologist!
UTIs after sex prevention tip 4: It would appear that diet can play a part for many people with recurrent UTI. Sugary processed food and drinks. So an unhealthy diet might need to be addressed.
Yay, I thought, as I felt another infection rear its ugly head as I sat in his office. He also told me that his wife drank aloe vera juice (packed with sugar in its readily available form) to sooth the inflamed area. I should have known this was not the answer!
At this stage I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry at the ridiculousness of it all. I wondered whether he usually gave his patients this kind of advice, and whether I should have just spoken to his wife directly.
UTI Antibiotics And Escaping Arrest
I left with a prescription for prophylactic antibiotics, tears in my eyes and a searing pain in my crotch… Running to the chemist, desperate to fill the script, desperate to pee, desperate to see the end and find a cure.
“As I clawed my antibiotics from their foil wrappers, clutching my bottle of sickly sweet aloe juice, I was questioned by police. Clearly they saw the desperation in my eyes, my weight loss and a persona of anything less than stable. I was a junkie, an antibiotic junkie.”
Between the prophylactic antibiotics, the invasive bladder inspection and the breakup of my relationship, my UTIs after sex stopped, for a time, for a time…
I have had one since, years after sex had stopped causing me anxiety. And yes, it was late in the evening the night before a public holiday in my slightly provincial home town.
The eye roll I gave the pharmacist who suggested Ural, a urinary alkalinizer, has actually gone down in history. I nearly pulled a muscle in both optic nerves.
I’d just had sex with a new partner. This reinforced my own newly developed theory that there are some men that I am just not compatible with on some basic biological, bacterial level. Swipe left, move along, body says no.
UTIs After Sex Are Worse Than Using The Toilet Around A New Partner
They sometimes refer to UTIs as “honeymooners syndrome”. Historically women became sexually active on their honeymoons.
There was probably already a mixture of fear and trepidation. Then add the potential embarrassment of showing your new husband that you needed to use the toilet. That may have been enough to leave many new brides with a desperately full bladder and bacterial growth flourishing.
New relationships encounter these same problems too. In this last instance the toilet was next to the bedroom and the door did not close. So I was less than enthusiastic about issuing the powerful jet of urine that might have saved me.
And it’s not just not peeing after sex that can cause problems. It turns out it’s about poo too! Constipation is linked to recurrent UTIs, especially in kids.
So if you’re also not making regular bowel movements due to the awkwardness of a new relationship, it’s best to just get over it.
UTIs after sex prevention tip 5: It’s important to avoid constipation. Keeping bowel movements regular can help with urinary tract health.
What I’ve Learned About UTIs After Sex
Fortunately for me, I now know a lot more about UTIs after sex, thanks to the diligent and constant study and questioning of this website.
The last time it happened I immediately recognised what was happening. I was uncomfortable but I managed to flush it out before it developed into the splatter fest, recurring carnage of my previous experiences.
My Tips For Avoiding UTIs After Sex:
- Wash your hands before any sexual activity (hands are germ sanctuaries) and ask your partner to do the same.
- Shower before sex, and ask your partner to do the same, if you find this helps.
- Oral sex can transfer organisms just as any other sexual contact can – I’m still experimenting with different approaches here.
- Always pee immediately after sex to help flush your urinary tract.
- Try using condoms, I find latex-free condoms are the best option.
- If the issue seems specific to sex, consider whether your partner should also be tested, and don’t ignore the possibility of STIs – they can cause UTI-like symptoms.
- Don’t let yourself get constipated! This can cause a world of UTI problems.
- Take a look at your health in general. Maybe your diet isn’t helping.
- Stay hydrated! And pee regularly!
How I Avoid UTIs After Sex
I’ve found that using certain products consistently has helped me avoid further UTIs after sex. For me, the most important have been:
- pH balanced wash that I use instead of ordinary soap
- pH balanced lubricant for use during sex
- A natural antimicrobial that can be taken after sex to help prevent UTI. (You need to create an account to view this one).
- A high quality D-mannose before or after sex
- A probiotic designed for urinary tract health that I take regularly
- A vaginal suppository probiotic (you put this directly in the vagina, where it counts most)
- And a few other items. I worked with the team at Femologist to make a bundle of my favourite products. So you can check those out there.
Specific products aren’t usually covered on this site because it’s about UTI science. But because UTIs after sex is such a widespread issue, and because these products are about prevention, I was allowed to share the links.
You can also provide your name and email address in the green box at the end of my story, for more information about my top picks.
Advocate For Yourself. You Know Your Body Best.
If there was one other thing I’d pass on to other sufferers of UTIs after sex, or recurrent UTIs in general, it’s this: Don’t accept it when you’re told it’s just the way you are, or when you’re offered remedies you don’t believe have validity.
Do your own research and keep track of your symptoms. Consider whether your partner may be contributing to the issue. And think about whether it makes sense for both of you to be tested.
Start with some of the resources on this website:
- Why your UTI test is negative despite your symptoms
- Chronic vs. recurrent UTI
- Recurrent UTI treatment options
UTIs after sex are so incredibly common. It would have been great to learn more about them during sex ed at school. Imagine if everyone fully understood the role sex can play in the UTI department?
Then peeing after sex would just be the norm. And maybe then we wouldn’t be terrified when we experience that first UTI. Maybe we’d have some idea how to handle it, and so would our partners.
To get answers to commonly asked questions about chronic and recurrent UTI, visit our FAQ page. Share your questions and comments below, or get in touch with our team.
You can request more information by providing your name and email address in the green box below.
Being a newly sexually active young adult, being hit in the face with this exact experience has been quite devastating. I don’t ever plan on leaving my partner but our lack of biological compatibility with this experience I’m having is making it difficult to continue being interested in the sexual experience with him.
I’d love to have any more info regarding this.
Hi Jay, I just sent you an email with more information from Juliet. I hope it helps, Melissa
J ai besoin des références des produits en France
Hi Marie, we don’t currently have a list of which products are available in France and where. Sorry I can’t be of more help. Some people have reported finding the same or similar products on iHerb or other online stores. Melissa
I’m facing the same problem, I need more info please.
Also do you guys know any woman that won against UTI? Or are we going to live this way all our life?
Hi Mel, I just sent you some more information by email. We do hear from people who have overcome recurrent UTI, and we’ve shared some of their stories. Melissa
Thank you so much for this very informative article. I’ve began incorporating many of the advice in here already to treat my recurrent UTI’s. I’d love any additional information you could share with me!
Hi Lee, I sent you an email with more information. I hope it helps, Melissa
Salut, j’ai des infections urinaires apres chaque rapport depuis 6 mois avec le changement de partenaire. Elles sont de plus en plus forte et je ne sais pas quoi faire. Je suis toutes les recommandations et meme prendre une douche apres chaque rapport n’arrange pas la chose. Je change mon alimentation mais ca devient un calvaire, je suis a bout
Bonjour Tiffany, veuillez consulter l’e-mail que j’ai envoyé pour plus d’informations. Melissa
Bonjour. J’ai toujours été sujette aux cystites mais là j enchaîne depuis 2 as après presque chaque rapport ! J en peux plus ! Pour notre couple c’est pas drôle non plus même si c’est moi qui souffre! Je ne sais plus quoi faire…
Bonjour Isabelle, veuillez consulter l’e-mail que j’ai envoyé pour plus d’informations. Melissa
Je des problème des santé quand je fais pipi je mal , je suis à l’hôpital je des analyses le docteur m’a dit que je rien pourtant je ressent des douleurs genre comme si au font de mon pénis je des blessures
Hi Ansoir, I sent you some more information by email. I hope it helps. Melissa
Could you please tell me what treatment did follow?
Hi Rocsana, I just sent you an email with more information provided by Juliet. Melissa
Can you send for me more information as well please,I suffer from UTI more than 16 years:(And tried what the doctors said,but no success yet…I just found you today and go through all your advices,
thank you so so much
Hi Beatrix, I just sent you some information by email. I hope it helps. Melissa
Hi! I’m really hoping to maybe use some of the products you suggested, thank you! This is my third UTI in 3 months, before that I’m constantly getting one every 2-4 months. It’s killing my sex drive and I feel so bad for my boyfriend. We do everything to clean ourselves, to pee, to using the right products and I can never seem to get the right solution. The worst part is I’ve been prescribed the after sex uti antibiotic and it gives me a yeast infection! I find no hope as I sit here on the toilet trying to pee lol. Has your UTI problem gone away? Can I trust Femoligists products or is it just for advertising/partnership?
Hi Bella, I can confirm from Juliet that she is no longer experiencing the UTI problem. We selected Femologist to stock the products that our community has found helpful because all of their products are vetted by a practitioner. We only share links to vetted products. Melissa
This is such a golden article. Perfectly balance with humour and science. I am currently suffering from the worst uti ive ever had in my young life and this had given me so much help and comfort. Thank you xx
Hi Jackie, I’m so glad you found it helpful! I’ve passed your message on to Juliet. Melissa
Hi, Ive been recently getting Bv and Utis back to back after having sex. More so bv every single time whereas UTIs come every two months or so. I do everything possible to avoid both. My partner and I wash our hands, shower before sex, use condoms, take probiotics etc. I dont know why they keep coming back. The doctors constantly say its nothing and it’s all in my head Im tired of constantly taking antibiotics. I live in Toronto! I need as much help as I can get please.
Hi Chantel, I just sent you and email with some information that I hope will help. You’re not alone in your experience. We hear from many people in similar situations! Melissa
Bless you this is an issue I have with every partner but I’ve had it throughout my sexual life
Hi Pam, you’re definitely not alone in that. You’re always welcome to reach out to our team directly if you have questions. Melissa
I started experiencing UTI when I was five years old. Bladder and kidneys were checked and no abnormalities were found. I took antibiotics for 6 months and everything was fine until 2014 that I became sexually active. Since then I have been having UTI few times a year. Each time been prescribed antibiotics.
Having sex (with condoms) in the week before my period causes UTI and mild yeast infection. Gynecologist couldn’t find a problem and urologist said: some women always get it, there is no absolute treatment.
Recently I have been diagnosed with hypothyroidism and prediabetes. Taking medication for hypothyroidism, healthy diet, regular exercise, and loosing weight didn’t help. Last four months, every month I got UTI.
Any suggestion is appreciated. Do you know a specialist in Germany?
Hi Asma, I just sent you an email with more information. I hope it helps, Melissa
Hi Tselane, you are welcome to send me a direct message if you have any questions. I’ll do my best to help, Melissa
Help…. I have recurrent cystits always after sex ..I get put on antibiotics and it goes only to come back as soon as seeing my friend (I’m 69 btw)…. I’m considering giving up this relationship as it’d be easier than keep having these infections … I’ve seen a gynaecologist and results are I have a slight collapsed bladder into wall of vagina … also duplex kidneys (4 ureters instead of 2) which don’t help apparently … I should say that when I get cystitis I’m really I’ll , bedridden with temp, headache and sickness
Hi Julia, I just sent you an email with more information. I hope it’s helpful, Melissa
Bonjour, je souffre également d’infections urinaires post coitales.
Si notre partenaire est porteur de ces bactéries, est il possible pour lui de se faire soigner ? Ou alors pour nos rapports on sera incompatible a vie ?
Hi Salma, I just sent you an email with more information. I hope it helps, Melissa
Can recurrent UTI’s prevent a woman from conceiving?
Hi Kamille, our article about UTI during pregnancy shares some information about this topic, if you’d like to read more. Melissa
I’m 27 years old who keeps getting uti right after sex though I’ve tried all the precautionary measures. I’ve checked with a gynecologist and the only treatment is through antibiotics and prescribed me a Cephalexin 500mg everytime after intercourse which does the trick but I’d like to avoid antibiotics and wanted to know if there is any other alternative to completely avoid getting uti after sex. The last partner I had sex with was unprotected and I’ve been getting constant abdominal and back pain with low period flow for a few months now. I’ve done urine tests, pelvic, kidney and uterus scans which turned out to be normal but the pain continues. Please let me know what’s the cause for this and how to eliminate utis. Thank you.
Hi Mary, I saw you also sent us an email, so I’ve replied there with more information. Melissa
Hello! So my uti nightmare started a few months ago after having a transvaginal scan, since then, I’ve had uti after uti and sex seems to make it worse. Antibiotics have given some relief however I have just finished a course of nitrofurantoin and it’s had no effect, in fact just today I’ve started bleeding in my urine including passing clots. I have had pelvic pain today and constant burning and a dull ache in my suprapubic area. Also, my urine test has come back normal, I’m at a complete loss and have no clue what is going on. I have all the symptoms, urgency, pain, bloody urine, frequency and pain/burning during urination. Should I be worried about something more serious?
Thanks in advance.
Hi Haleema, it’s always important to follow up with a clinician when you are experiencing symptoms. It’s also possible that the test is inaccurate, and we’ve covered more about that here. If you would like information about chronic UTI specialists, please send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based. Melissa
Hi Juliet, thank you so much for sharing your story and providing recommendations and suggestions. I appreciate that very much!
Hi Caron, I passed on your message to Juliet. She’s happy you found her experience helpful :). Melissa
I’m 21 and have a new partner I have had 3 uti’s in a month. I keep getting a 3day antibiotic course. When it finishes I have sex and the minute we finish I get so much pain. One time I finished the course and I didn’t have sex after but 4 days later the symptoms came back. It’s becoming such a big part of my life. I had sex 3 days ago and I’m still experiencing pain, sometimes it’s very mild or no pain. Do I let it go away in its own this time? I feel like it’s never ending. My partner hasn’t been tested do you think it’s worth him getting tested too? We have come to a decision to not have sex for a while but I’m worried this may disrupt our relationship. Could you please help me ?
Hi Gibby, I just sent you an email with more information. I hope it helps, Melissa
I have been getting UTI symptoms for 2 years now. My Ob-GYM call them angry UTI because I them get inflamed so bad that everything swells up and feels like glass when I pee.I’m currently being treated by my Uro-gyn and PCP who are stumped why I get these. Back several years I’ve had UTI my whole life but nothing like the past 2 years. I’m now getting them 4-5 times a year. Did a biopsy in September 2021 showed possible dermatitis but that was the only thing the lab came up with. I take a daily pro-pre biotic, plus allura, plus D-mannose. Now I’m back on a low dose daily antibiotic for the next 3 months. My PCP said maybe it’s caused by Zinc?? I’m at the point where I’m willing to do whatever to not have another. Any help or suggestions?
Hi Stephanie, can you please send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based? Then I can share the resources that are most relevant. Melissa
I good day ,I have been have recurrent UTI for about 2months now ,I went to 3 doctor’s already ,I did so much test and still nothing , they can tell me what is wrong with me more than they keep putting me on antibiotics that is not working , the first doctor that I went to put me on some antibiotic and they were working until I had sex it came right back , I am at a point where I am tired of spending tired of taking antibiotic that is not working and definitely tired of taking tests that is coming back negative , I pee a lot , having vagina discharge as well that is fishy look like cotton cheese , I am losing weight because I don’t know what to do and it’s just stressing me bad ,so please help me ,thank you.
Hi Kennesha, can you please send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based? I’ll share any useful resources I can. Melissa
I’m 37 years old just married and experiencing returning uti’s after sex…I went to a doctor but they always give me antibiotics..so wen ever I experienced again UTI I just medicate my self w/c sometimes I’m afraid….pls help me nid more info?
Hi Neneth, I just sent you an email with more information. I hope it helps, Melissa
Very helpful information.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.
I’d love to get more info please! This definitely needs to be discussed more often. Even though it’s not an “STD” sex is definitely a trigger.
Hi Amy, I just shared more information from Juliet by email. I hope it helps, Melissa
Hey, I have had recurrent UTIs in the last ~10 months, pretty much I get one every 2 months. I have been with the same partner even before that and we never had problems in that past, they just suddenly started last July. I have tried everything (peeing before and after sex, washing up with water only, and d-mannose more recently). I also went to get a cystoscopy last month which didn’t show anything. Can you give some tips? Could this be partner-related? I am wondering by now if it’s something that is bouncing back-and-forth between us. Also wondering if you are still getting them since your partner tested? Any info would help. Thanks a lot in advance
Hi Natalie, can you please send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based? On the topic of passing bacteria back and forth between partners, we recently published a video interview with an expert on this topic. I hope it helps, Melissa
Hello, I’m a 22 year old woman who get frequent UTI’s, around 10 last year. I’ve only ever had one boyfriend and I always get them after sex. I want to keep having sex but I get so anxious every time and we don’t do it often any more, he understands and is very helpful but I feel bad for him. No one else I know gets UTI’s and all my doctors are confused as to why I get them. Can it be that he gives them to me every time when he has no symptoms? I don’t know if this is valid but I want to stop this. It’s been happening since the beginning and I have tried everything to prevent them but I need help because it’s been happening for over 2 years now and I can’t take it anymore.
Hi Emily, I saw you also sent me an email so I’ve replied there with more info. I hope it helps, Melissa
I’m going through the same situation as yours. I’ve been getting recurrent UTI’s with a particular partner, and my doctor has advised to take antibiotics for 3 days every time I have an intercourse with him. But these antibiotics have affected my gut health and I go through stomach aches and acidity problems.
Is there a different solution to this? Or is it going to be the same throughout my life with my partner :(.
Hi Anupama, can you send us a direct message with more information and let us know where you’re based so we can share relevant resources? Melissa
Hi, I’m in a new relationship and have been having sexual intercourse for about 3 months with the same man. I didn’t have sex for about 5 years before this relationship but have had sex before. I keep having uti’s for the last 2 months. Never experienced them before with other partners. I’m really fed up, as soon as I’ve finished my course of antibiotics I’m back with another infection. The biggest symptom I have is the constant urge to pee. I’m starting to think my partner and I are not compatible and that he could be the reason behind it?
Hi Sian, I just emailed you some more information in response to a message you’d sent us earlier. I hope it helps. Melissa
You are absolutely amazing! So happy i came across your article- describes my situation 100%! You give better advice than the doctors, definitely! So grateful – i know my nightmare will be over soon and only due to you!
Happy to hear you’ve found this helpful! 🙂 Susy
Hi, could you please also send me some more tips via e-mail? I’ve been struggling with UTI after sex for almost 11 years and im totally desperate right now because it’s gettin even worst from one to another. I would be grateful for your tips
Hi Karolina, I’ve sent through some info via email. I hope you find relief soon! Susy
If my husband wears a condom at all times will this help to prevent BV and Uti or no??
Hi there, for some people, using condoms seems to be linked to UTIs after sex, which may be due to spermicides affecting the normal vaginal pH (although more research needs to be done on this topic). You could try latex free condoms and see if that helps. We’ve covered this in more detail in an article: 23 UTI Prevention Tips That Can Help Overcome Recurrent UTIs If you have specific questions, you can get in touch directly any time. Susy
Hi. I’ve been crying while reading this article because I am just tired and fed up of the recurrence of UTIs every time after sex for over three years now. I’m Sick and tired of antibiotics, I’m fed up of the burning, the frequent need to pee just one drop, I’m fed up of the blood stains in my underwear; I feel like panty liners aren’t safe. My life is miserable!! I just want to be free from this. Please help 🙏
Hi Dysha, can you send me a direct message and let me know where you are based, and any specific questions you have? Melissa
Hi there, i’ve found this article so helpful so thank you! I literally thought it was just me! I’ve had reoccurring UTI’s for around a year even with my last partner and new both tested and i just can’t keep taking antibiotics!? do you think supplements like vitamin -d would help if i took them ? any advice on what to do, it’s every time i have sex and i can’t do it any longer! Thanks x
Hi Olivia, I just sent you an email with some information. Send me any questions there. Melissa
Hi, I’ve been struggling with UTIs after sex for years. I’ve only had them with specific partners (over half of total partners) but with those partners I get them every single time. Then I would occasionally get a UTI with the partners I wouldn’t usually have an issue with. Please could you provide more info? I’m struggling to get any help from doctors on this. Thanks!
Hi Zena, I’ve sent through an email with some more info. Susy
After being totally single for 15 years, I finally found a great guy whom I’m super compatible with. He even discovered how to make me “O” but that involves lots of oral and the inevitable UTI afterward 🙁 I really don’t want to give up the pleasure but am hating the constant discomfort. I need something I can take (for the rest of my life) that will give me the best of both worlds. I just found your awesome article and will be searching out some of the things you suggest 🙂
Hi Wanda, I’m glad you found our article, and hope you find some tips that work for you! If you have any further questions, you can also send us a direct message any time and we’ll share what we can. Susy
Hi, if you ask for your partner to get tested, what do you ask them to get tested? Pee and sperm? And for UTI-causing bacteria? I’ve had two UTIs, after having sex in the past 7 months. One was E-coli and one was S. saprophyticus. I’ve never had them before with other partners.
Hi Berit, the short answer is that yes, if a clinician thinks it’s relevant to test a male partner, they would usually recommend both urine and semen testing. I have sent you a longer answer by email. Melissa
Could you please send me more info via email? I started going out with my boyfriend in July, and since then I’ve had 3 UTIs and a kidney infection derived from one of them… I don’t know what to do anymore… 🙁 Thank you very much!!
Hi Amalia, I’ve sent over some info via email. I hope you find relief soon! Susy
Please help, have had 2 UTI’d and one bacterial infection in less than 2 months since being with my new boyfriend. I’m just frustrated all together and want to call it quits cos I feel horrible. Currently on Nitrofurantoin and the side effects are brutal. Will appreciate if you sent me some more helpful information. Dreadful
Hi Akeeyz, I just emailed you more information. Let me know if you have any questions. Melissa
Would you please send me some information on how to stop having UTIs after sex ? I’ve started seeing someone and it seems like although I go on antibiotics and get better but after we have sex it comes back again.
Hi Rhi, you’re definitely not alone in that experience! I just emailed you with more information. Melissa
Hiya, I’m newly into a relationship and I have gotten 3 UTIs in the past few months. Are there any extra tips you might have?
Hi Alanna, I just sent you some information by email. Let me know if you have any questions. Melissa
Thank you for this article it has certainly let me feel less alone. I am presently experiencing my 2nd UTI since being with my new partner. I am terrified this might be a continous thing as it makes life extremely uncomfortable n sex less appealing. My first visit to the doc i was told i had a yeast infection however after taking the medications a month after i am going through the same thing. Please offer some advise or info…..i’m from Jamaica
Hi Leema, I’ve shared some more info via email. Susy
I have been having utis for the last three months non stop after sex. I do everything to prevent them. And even take antibiotics that don’t work. I get up all throughout the night bc I have to pee. And even when I don’t it’s a weird burning sensation. I’m losing sleep and starting to have more anxiety bc of this. I don’t know what to do anymore. The urologist told me gave me ten rounds of antibiotics to take. I’m very agitated and wishing this would stop
Hi Nicole, I’m sorry to hear that. Over time we’ve collected tips from our community and practitioners we work with, I’ll share these via email. I hope you find relief soon! Susy
Im in a similar situation. I’ve tried all the remedies (pee before and after, cranberry supplement, cotton underwear, ph balanced wash, increase water) but it keeps coming back after every session. GP keeps giving me rounds of antibiotics. I’ve read about dmannose but gp doesn’t know much about it. Any further information you can provide would be great 🙂
Hi Bianca, we have a full length article on D-mannose, if you’d like to read more. If you are after specific product information, please send me a direct message. Melissa
Hiya thanks for sharing
I seem to be getting UTIs often and is there any tips or help you can provide or email me over
I am currently on uti antibiotics …
Hi Hannah, I’ve shared some more info with you via email. Susy
Hello. In the past month I have gotten 3 UTIs and it seems like they come on right after sex. I go through all the steps and pee after sex and make sure my boyfriend washes his hands before we do anything. I also drink tons of water before and after. We are pretty clean about it. I don’t like having to go through this ritual of medication will being uncomfortable. This is a new relationship and I never got a UTI before being with my boyfriend. Are there any extra tips you might have because unfortunately it’s causing me to be scared of sex with my boyfriend.
Hi Jillian, I’ve sent some info through via email. I hope you find some relief soon, Susy
Hallo there. I am the same – I would like some more information please. I am desperate as getting uti after sex all the time now – last 2 years. I am with my husband for 12 years now and it didn’t used to be like that. Although, I got my first uti probably aged 17 and then had it now and then but never after every sex. I can smell it too. I am in Scotland. Please help. Thank you x
Hi Petra, I’ve sent through some info via email. I hope you find relief soon! Susy
Hi, thank you for your article. I would like some more information about UTI’s because I keep getting them after sex.
Hi Hannah, I sent you some more information. I hope it helps. Melissa
I get a UTI after every single time I have sex! I always wee and clean after and make a conscious effort to drink plenty of water. I was put on a 3 month course of antibiotics to stop them, but once finished they just came back :(. I have been referred to a gynaecologist and he says every time I have symptoms I need to take a sample to the doctors so that we can identify the bacteria causing it.. but it always comes back clear. It’s so frustrating and is really having a negative impact on my life.. I feel like I am at a lose end! Do you have any advice please? X
Hi Tara, there are a number of things you could try, including some of things outlined by Juliet above. For many people, the key is finding the right UTI specialist to work with. Can you send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based, so I can share more relevant info by email? Melissa
Could I please get some additional info also. I’m in Australia
Hi Brooke, I just sent you an email with more information. Let me know if you have any questions. Melissa
6+ years with my partner I get a uti no matter why after sex UNLESS I take a prophylactic. #1 I’m sick and tired of being like this #2 I’m tired of my partner always making it seem like he’s the problem or I don’t like sex because I have a whole ritual after #3 I am so sick of the nauseating taste of the antibiotics… macrobid 50mg and I just gag every time there is such a distinct taste.
Also, am I the only one who can smell a UTI immediately when urinating?!?! I’m like 300 UTI’s under my belt and even if I have an upper uti in my kidneys only and not bladder I can smell it. I smelled it once with my cats litter box and sure enough she had one. Same with a foster kitten. I can’t be the only one. I’ve even asked my partner and he can’t tell wtf I’m talking about.
Hi Patricia, you’re not alone in any of this, even in the ability to smell a UTI. We hear from a lot of people who can either smell it or sense it in another way, before they experience other symptoms. If you have any questions for us, you’re always welcome to get in touch directly. If you do, it helps if you let us know where you’re based. Melissa
Hi I’m facing same plz help
I’m facing this too and would like to get help. It’s always the tear that causes uti.
Hi Janice, I just sent you an email. I hope it’s helpful. Melissa
Hi Jas, I just sent you an email with more information. Melissa
Hi Melissa – could you please email me the information regarding partners being treated as well?
Hi, I just sent you some more info. Feel free to ask questions by email. Melissa
Thank you so much for creating this. I am currnel Dealing with recurrent UTIs and am so stresssed out I have lost my appetite. I am sick of going to doctors who just fob me off with pills and don’t take me seriously. I have taken to just trial and error with different prevention one remedies. Reading this has made me feel less alone. Thanks again.
Hi Christine, you’re definitely not alone! If we can help in any way, you’re always welcome to send us a direct message. Melissa
I am with a new partner. He has a very high sex drive. I am getting UTI’s constantly. I force my way through sex because I don’t want to lose him. He is getting frustrated when I tell him I am too miserable to have sex. I drink plenty of water, pee after sex, wash myself thoroughly. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Angela, your health is most important and having sex while still experiencing UTI symptoms may make things worse. I hope your partner can understand that and be supportive. This is not your fault, UTIs after sex are extremely common and you’re not alone in this. Can you send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based so I can send you relevant resources? Melissa
I can relate to this story a lot! I’ve been suffering with a recurrent UTI for over a year now, on and off. I’ve had countless amounts of antibiotics and the infection always returns shortly after. I’ve been drinking plenty of water daily and taking d-mannose supplements to try and ease the pain. It seems to be triggered by sex which is really putting me down as I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years now – the lab won’t accept a urine sample because of COVID and every time my urine is tested (dip test) at the doctors it always comes back with an infection. Is there anything else I can do rather than keep getting antibiotics or is there any other ways to try and help me out of this?!
Hi Abbie, can you send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based so I can share relevant resources? Melissa
I have been suffering with UTI’s for over a year now constantly, I’ve been on multiply antibiotics. I have even gone privately to have an ultra sound and everything is clear? Would you be able to help me? I’m suffering in horrendous amounts of pain every time after and it’s staring to ruin my everyday life
Hi Jess, I saw you also sent us an email so I’ve replied there with more information. I hope it’s helpful. Melissa
Asking for my girlfriend, because she is in excruciating pain after having sex. Sometimes after sex, she is okay, but this time the pain is terrible. It woke her up and she feels like she is bursting to pee but then only a few drops come out and the pain is a lot. What can I do to help her?? I’m so helpless
Hi Andre, can you send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based so I can share relevant information via email? Melissa
I’ve seen the pattern of getting a UTI after having sex every time. Could it possibly be my partners semen that is causing the infection? If you could please share more Information.
Hi Vicky, it is possible for bacteria to be passed back and forth between partners during sex, and this can lead to repeated UTI. I just sent you an email with more information about this. Melissa
Hi, I’ve been recently battling with recurring UTIs, have been through 4 in the last 4 months. I too have gone down the rabbit hole and started reading extensively about this but it would be nice to be able to have further advice from someone going through the same thing.
Hi Oana, I just emailed you more information. Feel free to ask any questions there. Melissa
I would love some more information.. i keep getting UTI. I’m so over it every 2 weeks I’m at the doctors… Please help
Hi Belle, sorry to hear you’re experiencing that. I see you also messaged us directly and the team has replied, I hope that helps and that you find answers soon! Susy
I am so happy I came across this site. Long story short..I am now terrified to have intercourse with my husband due this problem. My one doctor told me that could contribute to the issue because I am waiting too long in between the times we do have sex and referring to microbes. Lucikly, sometimes I just wait a couple days with symptoms and it will go away but then I am back to being afraid. So, it will be weeks then back to back days. I also experience chronic constipation. Stress and anxiety have been bad, so taking low dose of Prozac too. Can I take that probiotic linked and culturelle probiotic or will this one possibly help both? Can condoms help, as maybe it is his bacteria? Thank you so much!
Hi Elisabeth, we hear from many people who experience UTIs after sex, so you’re not alone in this! And it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling anxious. Condoms may help (latex-free may be less irritating) but they don’t necessarily stop organisms from reaching the urethra. Regarding probiotics, as every body is different, it’s best to work with a practitioner to find the right approach for yours. I’ve sent you an email with some tips we’ve collected from the community and experts over time for UTIs after sex, don’t hesitate to reply there if you have more questions. Susy
Everytime I have sex I get a uti and I feel like it’s ruining my life. How can I stop this happening ?x
Hi Tasha, I just forwarded you some more information by email. Melissa
Hey there, I have been dating my boyfriend for a little less that 5 years and within the pass year I’ve had more than 12 UTI! I tried switching my diet, peeing before and after sex, taking Probiotics and nothing seems to be working. Got tested for STI and all came back negative. Please let me know if you have any other tips other than the ones you mention above
Hi Sydney, you’re definitely not alone in that experience. We’ve heard good feedback about the products Juliet mentioned above, but it may also be helpful to read about chronic vs recurrent infection, and why UTI testing may be part of the problem. It can also be helpful to find a recurrent UTI specialist. We may be able to help with that if you let me know where you’re based. You can send us a direct message with more info. Melissa
Terrific article. Thank you. I too tried everything in my 20s. I had to take so many antibiotics for my UTIs that bacteria became resistant to all. When I was 28 I was prescribed 100 mg nitrofurantoin as a prophylactic after sex. It worked for 15 years. Now in my early 40s, I am back at square one. Nitrofurantoin has stopped preventing my UTIs. I’m having to have injections after every sexual encounter. Urologists where I live are rather clueless, and tend to assume I am unhygienic, which is far from the truth and very frustrating. Would be very happy if you could share the natural antimicrobial to use after sex, by mail. Thanks again.
Hi Diba, I just emailed you more information from Juliet about the items she mentioned above. Melissa
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Over the past 25 years, while we were both married to other people, my wife has never had a single UTI and Shoshana has only had 2 in 25 years while with her husband. Over the past month, we’ve met up and had sex 3 separate times all of which resulted in painful STIs for her..So there is something about us that produces STIs every single time we have sex…do you think it’s a transmitted virus from me to her? Remember, my wife never had one. Shoshana thinks it might be as a result of more friction on the urethra when we’re having sex…not sure if it’s that or something else….HELP!!!
Hi Scott, bacteria and other organisms are passed back and forth during sex, and this is impossible to completely eliminate. It is possible for one partner to carry organisms that are an issue for the other partner, without experiencing symptoms of their own. I have just sent you an email with more information on this. I hope it helps. Melissa
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Hello. Great article. Hoping you could shed a little more light for me..25 years ago, I was dating a beautiful woman (Shoshana) in Boston while in college. Our sex life was beautiful and very active. However, every time we had sex, she would get a UTI…like clockwork. Every time. After a year-ish, we broke up, moved on with our lives and lost touch – it was complicated. 26 years later (3 months ago) we found each other on Facebook and are both at stages in our life that is enabling us to give it another try.
Hi! I’ve been experiencing UTIs after every sexual encounter with a new partner, can you please send me more information via email?
Hi Gabriella, I just sent you an email with more information. I hope it helps. Melissa
I have been diligently using every imaginable strategy to prevent infections. I’ve had them my entire life and they are only triggered by sex. I just got my second one this year. I am working with a urology/gynecologist who is very knowledgeable about healthy options however I need to use an antibiotic now that I am sick, I had a culture reveal the specific pathogen. Can you tell me about the A natural antimicrobial? Any other suggestions/specialists are welcome. I’m in Cleveland, Ohio.
Hi Kelsey, I just replied to your earlier email with more information from Juliet. Melissa
Hi. Great article. Made me laugh too. I also have this everytime. I am going through menopause 3rd year now and my gyno suggested I use estrogen cream to thin out the vaginal wall as it seems to have thickened a lot with menopause. I don’t want to use that as yet as I’m a little scared of estrogen and side affects, however he also recommended Hiprex to take everyday and obviously drink plenty of water. Have yet to try. I start antibiotics straight away always and only take for one or two days.
Hi Chrissie, we have an article on estrogen and UTI, if you’d like to read more. I can also share some information on Hiprex by email, if you send us a direct message. Melissa
Hi. I get utis every other week. What does your Care routine look like (like how often do you use each of the recommenced stuff)?
Hi Kelsey, Juliet hasn’t provided this specific information as it’s often a case of experimentation to find what works. It tends to be different for each individual. Melissa
Every time I have sex with my boyfriend I get UTIs everytime and we both pee after sex and I get in the shower 2- 3 times a day I only drink water and I take women’s vitamins and I make him get in the shower before sex and drink water but I still can’t seem to stop getting these UTIs is it possible that he has a uti without symptoms and how do I stop this from happening ?
Hi Char, it is possible for a partner to carry UTI-causing bacteria without experiencing any symptoms, and this can be transferred during sex. It can help to speak with a recurrent UTI specialist. If you’d like more information on options, can you send me an email and let me know where you’re based? Melissa
Hello after reading all these stories, I see I am not the only one to suffer from UTIs. I want to go the natural way and I have taken all of the above mentioned, but of course it doesn’t seem to help. I have even done a cystoscopy and seen a urologist but it ends up being the same thing, another uti.. I wanted to know if you have any suggestions..
Hi Michelle, in many cases, it can help to work with a clinician that specialises in recurrent UTI, which most urologists do not. It may also be helpful to have a sexual partner tested, if the issue appears to be partner specific. When it comes to UTI testing, it’s important to understand the limitations of standard testing. If you would like more information on possible clinicians, please send us a direct message. Melissa
I had my first ever UTI about a month ago after having sex with a new partner for the first time and now I’ve had sex with him again I can feel another UTI coming on. This has never happened with anyone else I have slept with in the past has anyone else had the same experience?
Hi Katie, we hear from a lot of people who have experienced UTIs that seem partner specific (including Juliet, whose story is above). If you have any questions for us, you’re always welcome to send us a direct message. Melissa
Hi! Every time I have Sex with my boyfriend I get a UTi but I do everything I’m suppose to. I clean myself before and after and so does he, I pee before and after sex, and all I drink is water. I’m not sure what else to do.
Hi Ariyana, I just emailed you with some more information about options you might like to consider. Melissa
I relate so much to your story as well as all the other women leaving comments. I noticed you didn’t say what you took to be UTI free can you please send me some information thank you.
Hi Therese, I just emailed you with more detail from Juliet. Melissa
I just left a comment but didn’t add my details first time so not sure it posted?! I was just saying how awful and sad I feel that I’m in a new relationship which is wonderful but after every time we have sex (not often as we live far away) I develop a UTI, I take antibiotics it goes away and comes back the next time we are together. The burning, despite to pee and the incontinence is making me feel so sad. I’m careful, clean, I per after sex. I eat well, drink plenty of fluids. Please help?!
Hi Claire, I just sent you some more information from Juliet, by email. I hope it helps. Melissa
I relate to this article as well! I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, but just five months ago I’ve started to get UTIs after every time we have sex. I went to the doctor who would treat me for the UTIs and she said I had a Strep B infection. She said it was nothing to worry about, but the UTI sensations after sex keep happening. I’m so desperate to find out what is wrong and something that can help! I’ve been taking antibiotics nonstop for the past five months and I’m nervous that’s not good for you either.
Hi Lauren, can you send us a direct message and let us know where you’re based so I can share any relevant resources? Melissa
Hello, My condition is similar to many others and I am totally confused that why it happens every time after sex even though I take all precautions. Please send me more details.Thanks!
Hi Hannah, I am post menopausal. This has led me to get uti’s after sex. I am using vagifem and still this has not prevented me from getting uti. Please send me more information on the natural antimicrobial. Thank you!
Hi Kimberly, I just sent you an email with more information and a link. Melissa
Hi Sherry, I just shared more from Juliet by email. I hope it helps. Melissa
Hi Melissa, I have been with my partner since January and have been experiencing UTI’s after sex. I have taken antibiotics but it always comes back after I sleep with my bf again. I started to drink probiotics and take all hygiene precautions. Any advise that I can use would be much appreciated. Thank you.
Hi Sonia, I just emailed you with more information on products that can help, and when it may be appropriate to ask a partner to get tested. Melissa
I also have this. Ive always had the odd one after sex. However with my new partner of 18 months, ive had a UTI every time we have sex. It has totally taken over my life. I was taking a course of antibiotics every week for almost a year before my doctor put me on preventative antibiotics whick i cannot cope without. Ive tried alternatives..d mannose, uva-ursi, drink loads of water, urinate before and after…nothing works!! Ive had full STI checks all negative several times. I dont want a life of relying on antibiotics..please help!
Hi Mandy, I just emailed you with more information. I hope it’s helpful. Melissa
I’ve been reading all these comments, I resonate more with Mandy’s story it’s exactly what am experiencing. Am in need of help. The constant Uti’s are making my life miserable. Please help.
Hi Caroline, I just sent you an email. We can discuss more there if you have further questions. Melissa
Thank you so much for this info. I have been dating my bf for 5 yrs now. I do not believe he’s unfaithful. I was diagnosed with IC which symptoms are identical to a UTI. I just had finished a prescription for a UTI and was good. Now symtoms have come back after we had sex again. However, we always use condoms. Question is how can I be getting a UTI when we use condoms?? I appreciate your input.
Hi Carrie, there are a number of theories around UTIs and sex. While condoms may reduce the risk, they do not necessarily prevent organisms from either partner reaching the female urethra. We all have a variety of bacteria on our skin (everywhere, at all times). There is another theory that if an infection already exists within the bladder, sex may trigger symptoms rather than introducing new UTI-causing bacteria. As Juliet mentioned, there are other things you can try that may help. You’re welcome to get in touch for more information. Melissa
Hi thanks for sharing your experience. I felt I was reading my story, I am into this for past over 2 years basically ever since I am with my partner. I got almost all possible antibiotics , months of no sex, yogurt/ Boric acid suppository, doses of Ural , avoiding constipation .. progress is slow, but staying positive. Please email me the product you used. Thanks !!
Hi Gina, I just emailed you with more information on behalf of Juliet. Melissa
Hey ! I am suffering from the same problem where I get constant UTI after having sex and feel a bit pain while urinating . I always go to doctor and take some antibiotics and cream which stops the pain for a while and again I face UTI after having sex . I started having sex two months ago and before that I didn’t even that UTI thing might happen with me .it really frustrates and scares me a lot . But I face UTI only after having sex with my partner . I felt like why it kept happening only with me frequent UTI I take shower and pee after sex and drink a lot of water . But it still happens that makes me mentally deprived . I really don’t know what to do because I don’t want to go to doctor all the time . Can you please help me out in this ?
Hi Nish, I just sent you an email with more information. Melissa
Hi there…sadly, recently, every new partner I am with gives me a UTI. I stay hydrated, pee after sex, even shower most of the time before, or will make sure I have no bowel movements beforehand so there isn’t a chance of bacteria there. But, I am laying here feeling the onset of a UTI as I wait for AZO to kick in. I had sex with my significant other every day for the past three days (first time meeting), with no issues, but of course, now that I’m alone after a long flight, dehydration, and he isn’t here to at least console me…of course I have the symptoms. Could you let me send you a message about those antiobiotics you take?
Hi Brianna, I’m not sure if you’re asking about the antibiotics Juliet took, but it’s important to take an antibiotic that is specific to the cause of your infection. If you’d like to, you can read more about antibiotics for UTI, or get in touch directly with any questions. Melissa
I recently started having sex for the first time 2 months ago. Since then, I’ve been getting recurrent UTIs. I’ve been on three courses of antibiotics, which clears them up for a while, but then I get another uti again soon after. I make sure to shower and pee before and after sex and drink plenty of water. I don’t know why it keeps happening but it’s so frustrating. I don’t think I get them every time I have sex but they’re always caused by sex. I don’t know if this is relevant but I also have a latex allergy so I only use latex free condoms. Are there any ways I can prevent them from coming back, and could it be my partner??
Hi Mia, I just emailed you with more tips around preventing UTIs after sex. Organisms that cause UTIs can be passed back and forth between partners, so in some cases it may make sense for both partners to be tested. I sent you more info about that too. Melissa
Hi I have a similar story where Ive been getting constant utis every 2 weeks or every month for the past year. I have done every preventative measure but I just can’t figure out what the problem is. Could it be my partner giving me the uti?
Hi Rita, some recurrent UTI specialists definitely consider the partner as a possible contributor when UTIs are triggered by sex. In many cases, the partner may be tested. We have heard from a number of people whose partners were found to be carrying bacteria that seemed implicated in their own UTI symptoms. I can also share more information about prevention tips, if you send me a direct message. Melissa
I use to get frequent uti after sex and got totally mad over it..it is affecting my married life too plz help if you can
Hi Megha, I just sent you an email and shared some more info from Juliet. Please check your spam if you don’t see it. Melissa
Hello, i’ve just had my first UTI. my doctor said it was because I had a new partner. What I’m worried about is that if it is reoccurring does that mean that our bodies are not compatible? Or that I need to be extra careful with my partner? I asked my mom for advice and she said that she had UTIs her entire marriage with my father. So that advice was kind of sad to hear.
Hi Nicole, sex is one of the most common triggers for UTI. While there isn’t a lot of research into this yet, anecdotally, some people do report that UTIs appear to be linked to a specific partner (like Juliet mentioned) and others that it is just sex itself. There are a number of things to consider here and approaches you can try. I’ve sent you an email with more information. Feel free to ask questions there. Melissa
Wow Ive been goig crazy trying to figure this out. My UTIs started , going on 4 now in the past year, since Ive began my current relationship. Ive taken all hygiene precautions before and after sex. Could it really be that our bodies just don’t belong together?
Hi Nikki, there are many aspects to this problem that specialists suggest should be considered. One is that partners pass bacteria back and forth during sex. This is always the case, whether it causes issues or not. It is possible for one partner to carry bacteria that does not cause them symptoms, but does cause symptoms for the other partner. In these cases, it can be a good idea for both partners to be tested, not just for STIs, but for possible UTI-causing bacteria. There are other precautions that can be taken around sex. If you’d like more info on that, you can send me a direct message. Melissa
hi, I have a similar story to most here. I am getting utis frequently and are mostly associated with sex. Going off birthcontrol helped but the string of reaccurant utis is coming back. Any suggests are appreciated
Hi Jasmine, can you send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based so I know what information is relevant to send you? Melissa
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I have had a very similar experience, and found out I had a kidney stone after a bladder/ultrasound examinations but after years of investigations and attempted removal of the stone I still get UTI’s. This has got increasingly worse after getting into a new relationship, but worth noting than when I was not sexually active I still got them. Mannose have helped me in the past, but any tips you can provide would be very welcome! Thanks, Hayley
Hi Hayley, I also got your email, so I’ve replied there with more information. Melissa
Hi, I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I too also suffer from recurrent UTI’s. I was told by my urologist that my bladder doesn’t empty completely and therefore that’s the cause of my UTI. I also tend to get them after sexual intercourse as well as oral. I’m now on antibiotics as a preventative. Just a little background on me, as a young girl I did have a surgery done to fix my ureter reflux. I read up on the procedure and it said one of the side effects after having that surgery would be UTI’s. Because of my recurrent UTI’s I now find that I’m not that interested in having and I’m sad to say that it’s ruining my marriage. I have tried all of the above. Showering before and after sex, peeing before and after but still nothing! Please help!!!!
Hi Kalei, I got your direct message too, so I’ve replied with more information via email. Melissa
What is the name of the product that the writer mentions in this statement “A natural antimicrobial that can be taken after sex to help prevent UTI” ?
Please let us know.
Hi Srishti, we don’t share specific product information publicly on our site. I can share more via email if you send me a direct message. Melissa
I have had constant UTI’S for 13 years. My doctor had me on anitbiotics to prevent but says i can’t do that anymore because it can cause more problems. I was sent to a practitioner who specializes in frequent Uti’s. She has me use methanemine each night with vitamin c and a hormone cream in rhe vaginal area. She says mine is probably from menopause, dryneas and the right bacteria not being present in the vaginal area. If I stick to this treatment everyday I don’t get infections.
While reading this article felt like my life story, it didn’t really give any help cause I’ve tried all the things you mentioned. I’m lying in bed waiting, so uncomfortable and so desperate for answers, waiting for the doctor to open to get medicine. I get them every couple of months for about 20 years now. Sometimes less because I will purposely have sex less often cause this is often on my mind. I did see a urologist years back. He did stretch my urethra and while one of the most painful things I’ve done, did absolutely nothing for me. I gave up on all hope after that experience. Yet, every now and then I go on the internet hoping I will find something, anything that will help. Is there something else? What do you take?
I’m in the same boat. What are our other options? Every doctor I see keeps prescribing antibiotic prophylaxis but I’m scared I’ll gain resistance to them. I just want to have a normal life!
Hi Christina, I saw you also emailed us, so I’ve shared more information there. Melissa
Hi Jennifer, I just sent you an email with more info. Melissa
Hi Susan, it’s great to hear you have found something that works! We’ve covered some of this in our article on UTI and menopause. There is scientific research to support estrogen therapy, and hopefully we’ll see a lot more research into the area. Melissa
I have the same problem. I do all of the above, have had numerous tests and live off prophylactic antibiotics. Don’t know what to do anymore or where to go. Same partner 13 yrs and have short sex to reduce friction. It’s driving me mad. Any suggestions would help?!
Hi Cath, can you send me a direct message so I can share more of Juliet’s tips by email? Melissa
Hi, I’ve been experiencing uti more frequently after sex. It’s not after every time but always happens eventually. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and have gotten about more than five utis in the past months. It seems like I’m taking antibiotics all the time. This last time I got one, the doctor did extra testing to make sure there was no bacteria and that it was just another uti. Most times I can figure out why I got the uti and others, I don’t know at all. I could really use some help, please. I am beginning to get scared of having sex anymore
Hi Andi, I can sympathise! Can you send me a direct message and let me know where you’re based so I can share some relevant information? Melissa
Hi, I am 29 and I got married recently. Every time I have sex with my husband I end up getting UTI exactly a day after we do it. It is so painful and I end up starting an antibiotic course. It occurs in spite of using condoms, washing properly after sex, being hydrated, peeing before and after sex. I am really not able to understand what the problem is. It has become really scary for me to have sex with my partner.
Hi Steph, UTIs after sex are such a common issue. I can share more about specialists that may be able to help, and other approaches, if you send me a direct message. Melissa
Hi! I’ve been in full menopause since I was 45 yr old. I’m currently 48. Since then, I’ve had recurring UTI’s especially after sex. It’s so awful. I do treat on my own however, but it’s just frustrating and to the point I fear having sex altogether! I’ve been with the same partner for 8 years.
Hi Ginette, sorry to hear that. We’ve covered UTI and menopause in more detail here, if you’d like to read more. You can also reach out to us directly with any questions. Melissa
I never had UTIs before until I started to have sex with my now husband… they appeared at first because I was totally shy to fart or poo, but now they always appear after sex… Peeing after sex immediately hasn’t help that much.
What sometimes helps, is one glass of water with the manosse, and one glass of water with one drop of wild oregano oil after sex. A pill of noni powder if time pass by and I still feel inflammation. I take NAAC aceltisistein sometimes too, which is proved to get rid of biofilm.
I don’t know if size is relevant, or the fact that we are looking for a baby, maybe sperm could increase UTI. My husband did lab studies and nothing appeared.
Hi Adriayala, I can share more of Juliet’s tips on avoiding UTIs after sex by email. If you’re interested, you can send us a direct message. I don’t believe any compound has yet been proven to get rid of a biofilm in the bladder, but if you have seen research to the contrary, can you share it? Many people will be interested to read it. Thanks! Melissa
Having recurrent UTI’s is horrible. I just turned 19 yesterday and every time I have sex I get a UTI regardless of showering and peeing before and after. My doctors just prescribe me some antibiotics after letting me wait for an hour for the results. Saying “sorry, just have less sex” is like a punch in the face for me. I’m not asexual and actually have a high libido. I could have sex for 3 times everyday if it wasn’t for my fear of getting an UTI. I live in Switzerland and we’re supposed to have good healthcare but I guess I’m left alone in this case.
Hi Michelle, I completely agree that ‘avoid sex’ is not a practical, long term solution. If you send me a direct message, I can share more information that may be helpful. Melissa
Do you know when I was reading This article I was feeling that someone is talking about mine problem….! But thank you for tips
Hi Namz, it’s true, it’s such a common problem! If you have any questions, you can always get in touch with us directly. Melissa
It’s relieving knowing I’m not the only one suffering from this. I have a new boyfriend And for the last 3 months I keep getting terrible UTIs everytime we have intercourse. This has never happened this previous before and I’m tired of taking antibiotics and pyridium everytime I start getting UTIs. I do everything right, pee before and after, drink plenty of fluids, take probiotics and cranberry pills. I wish I can fix this before my body becomes resistant to most antibiotics
Hi Leslie, you’re right, many of us know what this is like! Can you send us a direct message so I can share more of Juliet’s tips via email? Melissa
I have the same situation too but I just realized a pattern. If my partner and I just make it quick and I pee immedietly after sex then I won’t have UTI but if we strech it then I will have UTI. I think it’s because of the friction. I tend to get dry easily esp when I’m not fertile and whenever I feel that during sex, we stopped and due to my sensitivity we don’t use any lubricants.
Hi Mia, we’ve heard from others who also find the duration of sex can be the issue. It’s great that you’ve managed to figure out a way to avoid UTI symptoms. I’m interested to know whether you have you tried any of the pH balanced, bio-matched lubes. We’re hearing from more people lately that these have helped them. Melissa
This is one of the most helpful websites I have found. I am over 70, still sexually active with my husband, and have been plagued for years with recurrent UTIs. Am interested in the natural antimicrobial since I now take a daily antibiotic, plus another one after sex; and Still get these, despite all other precautions. Any other advice appreciated since we are considering stopping sex altogether, which, after 56 years of marriage, is a sad idea.
Recent widow and no sex for 5+ years as my husband was ill. But through our married life years after being on the pill and then a diaphragm. I was no longer interested in sex because of the fear of a UTI and not using the right lubricant. Well new boyfriend we are clean from all appearances and in one year I would estimate at least 10 uti’s. Dr has me on bactrim after sex but my system has built up a defense against it. Wonderful and sad. We do not have sex alot but only weekends. So very frustrated and losing my zen for sex. I am 62.
Hi Staci, can you send me a direct message so I can share more information from Juliet via email? We also have an article on UTI and menopause, if you’re interested in reading more on that. Melissa
Hi Sheila, can you send us a direct message so I can share more information via email? You might also like to read our article on UTI and menopause, which might be helpful. Melissa
Thank you for addressing this very unfortunately, common issue. I’ve often felt alone with struggling with this issue. It’s interesting to know that many other women are going through the exact same issue!! I too am looking to prevent, and not continue taking antibiotic after antibiotic. Thanks.
Hi Lily, if you’d like more information about Juliet’s approach, you can send us a direct message. Make sure you let us know that you’re interested in Juliet’s story, so we know what to send you. Melissa
I can’t tell you how helpful this article was for me. I ALWAYS experience UTI’s and tbh taking antibiotics for them every single time cannot be good for you. For example (as I write this from the comfort of my steaming hot bath WITH a UTI) my doctor prescribed me Cipro which causes all sorts of issues, one being tendinitis. There have been recent cases after cases in which people have taken cipro and have torn ligaments left and right. Hoping there will be more of a WORKING miracle homeopathic out there somewhere, sometime soon. Fingers crossed 🤞🏼 anyhoo thanks again for the vulnerability and such great insight on this issue that should absolutely be spoken more about!
Hi Chaunte, I couldn’t agree more that these things need to be spoken about – it’s so common! I’ll let Juliet know you found her story helpful. Melissa
Hi Melissa, can you share what Ania found out. Similar situation.
Hi Rush, can you send me a direct message so I can share more via email? Melissa
I realized a pattern too. Having intercourse with my boyfriend always resulting in utis. And when I would clear up from a round of antibiotics I’d have sex and boom another painful uti! It’s a nightmare! What are remedies?
Hi Carol, you might find it useful to read out section on UTIs and sex in this article, as well as our UTI prevention information. Finding a recurrent specialist can also help. If you have any questions, you can get in touch directly. Melissa
Hello there! Im suffering from UTI or yeast infections after sex tooooo! Feeling so stress everytime i need to go to dr to take antibiotic or antifungal cream.
I do those before and after cleaning and pee everytime after sex and drink lots of water! But stilllll! UTI keep on coming back!!!! 😥😥😥
Hi Charlene, you’re not alone! You might find it helpful to read our information on chronic vs recurrent UTI, and UTI prevention. If you have any questions, you can also get in touch directly. Melissa
Wow I really would like to know exactly what your solution was because for some reason this always happens to me when a guy uses his finger for fourplay down
There I end up with a terrible uti even if i go pee and also i feel
Maybe when you don’t have sex often and you finally do it must throw off your ph balance because sometimes I get a yeast infection and immediately think that means std but then go get tested and I’m clean. Please help any advice would be much appreciated!
Hi Barbara, it’s interesting you mention that as one of the UTI scientists we’ve spoken with suggested that washing hands before sex is possibly one of the most important things you can do in terms of minimising the risk of UTIs after sex. The reasons behind UTIs related to sex can be different for each person. In Juliet’s case, her UTIs were specific to the partner she was seeing at that time. We’ve shared some information on UTI prevention, if you’d like to read more. Or get in touch directly with questions. Melissa
Hi! i’ve been trying to contact you guys but it won’t let me dm you. i have questions on a doctor that could help me in the south florida/ miami area. thank you!!! i appreciate it
Hi Gaby, that’s strange you haven’t been able to get in touch. I just sent you an email. Melissa
This sounds like my LIFE!
I’ve struggled with uti’s ever since I’ve been married 2years ago. It’s a never ending vicious cycle, and has me so down some days because I feel like my body is failing. I’ve tried everything under the sun, for prevention of them. What have you done to keep them away?
Hi Jackie, I saw you also sent us a direct message, so I’ve replied via email. Melissa
Hi ! Thanks for your story. I have been married 23 years. I started getting frequent UTIs. After much research trial and error- cranberry pills, perimg after sex 100% of the time, staying hydrated- I found that it was our lube! Glycerine is found in many many personal lubricants and I had read that it can cause UTIs for some reason. . We switched to glycerine free lubes and I haven’t had one since. I was having them monthly before! Hope this helps someone!
Hi Christy, that’s very interesting. We hear many different experiences about UTI triggers and I’m glad you figured out what was causing your symptoms! Melissa
Hi. I’ve been with a guy for the past 3 months and every time we have sex I get infection or pain or some discomfort. First time it was yeast infection, second time, foul odour and itching and the third time just cuts in the vaginal opening, itching and watering. I’m really stressed. I need this to stop. I wish to know if this is my problem or his because I’ve been a sexually active person before him.
Hi Alita, it’s always best to speak with a doctor about these kinds of symptoms. It’s impossible to know the cause without further testing. Melissa
Dear Juliet, i totally understand you, right now I am on antibotics and I am furious – this is the 4th UTI in the past 8 months. Last time, after sex, i drank 1,5 l of water and I went to bathroom for like every 45 min, but still, tommorow there was too familiar pain. I don’t know what to do anymore, how to prevent this. For a couple of years, cranberry products with 36 mg PAC helped me (but it has to be labelled, not every cranberry product contains PAC), but recently, it doesn’t work. I get furious with my husband (it’s not his fault, but still :), because after sex he rolls over and sleeps, and I sit on toilet for 20 minutes trying to pee. Anyway, at least I am not the only women in this world dealing with this. Hope that the situation changes for all of us.
Regards from Sarajevo
Hi Belma, you’re definitely not alone in that experience. If you have any questions, you can always send us a direct message. Melissa
In the past year, I have become less sexually active as I was before because of the fear of the pain that comes with it. However, when I do engage in sex, I ALWAYS get a UTI, without fail. I cannot remember the last time I did not get one after sex, even though I take as much preventative care as possible – I wash before and after sex, pee immediately after sex, drink lots of water, etc.
I have been dealing with this for years and I do have 2 diagnoses ( IC and Hi-Tone Pelvic Floor Dysfunction). However, I have reasons to doubt that they are the real cause.
Do you have any advice on ways to improve this or avoid UTI’s after sex?
I’m currently in a new relationship and I have been getting UTIs after sex I’m not sure why or what the cause is.
My last relationship I have never gotton one only thrush.
I would love to speak with someone if they know what it could be caused from,thank you,much appreciated!
Hi Tara, can you send us a direct message and let us know where you’re based, so we can email you any resources that may help? Melissa
Hi Azusena, finding a practitioner who specializes in recurrent UTI may be helpful. We also have more information on our site regarding UTI testing, treatment and chronic infection, if you’d like to learn more. Melissa
Reading your post was like looking at my own history, and it rings so close to home. I do have a question you may be able to answer. I have been with the same partner for 4 years now and only recently have I begun to have UTIs with them. I really love this partner and I dont want to be afraid to have sex with them.
I’m also starting to have the problem that even if I pee after sex I still get a UTI.
I know you can relate but I dont think I can handle another UTI, they haunt you in everything you do. I curse at my body for being this way when I do everything I can to ensure I dont get one.
Do you have any advice as a chronic sufferer yourself?
Hi Kidda, many recurrent UTI sufferers have told us that finding the right practitioner was a turning point for them. If you’re considering finding a UTI specialist, we may be able to share some helpful information. You can send us a direct message if you’re interested. Melissa
I loved the last 2 paragraphs (especially). I wish sex ed at school was realistic when i was “taught” and that first uti i got. Well that was when i got raped by a cousin and apart from the trauma i endured, i also got a uti. I just sat in the shower for a looooooong time but didn’t pee. Thanks so much for writing this. It’s helpful and gave me female strength.
Hi Priscilla, I’m so sorry to hear you experienced that. There are many things sex ed doesn’t prepare anyone for – females and males included. We’re hoping to help change this. If you ever have any questions, you can always get in touch directly. Melissa
I’m currently in agony, counting down the minutes until my doctors appointment to finally get some relief. I’m the same – constant UTIs after sex. I got them after every time with my last partner but with my current partner they seem to be less frequent. I’m so fed up and honestly beginning to feel depressed by it. No doctor has an answer!?!
This is all made worst by the fact that I am also now pregnant so can only take certain types of antibiotics. Please suggest something apart from abstinence because right now that seems to be my only option.
Hi Lucinda, sorry to hear you’re going through that. Can you send us a direct message with a little more info, so we know what resources may be helpful? Melissa
Where is the solution?? I just read all that and there was no mention of what was causing the post-sex UTIs or how you got rid of them?! Unless it was that it’s partner-specific?
Hi Rebecca, in Juliet’s case, she believed it was likely to have been partner specific. Having said that, the cause of UTIs is different for each individual, and we have a lot of information on our site about testing, treatment and home remedies, if you’d like to read it. Melissa
Hi I been getting uti after sex with my husband hysterectomy in 2015 try different antibiotics nothing works see a urologist please help thank you
Hi Bathsheba, can you send us a direct message and let us know where you’re based, so we can share any resources that may be useful? Melissa
I get frequent UTIs from sex. Gram negative klebsiella pneumoniae was in the urinalysis. Antibiotics don’t seem to be working. Suggestions?
Hi Michelle, you might like to read our information about chronic vs recurrent UTI, and recurrent UTI treatment. If you have any questions, you can send us a direct message. Melissa
Reading your write up got me bursting with laughter.
My question is, can partners who are both UTI free both contact UTI infection as a result of excessive/frequent sex?
Hi Akins, I’m glad you liked the story, Juliet has a way with words :). If a UTI is caused by foreign bacteria ascending the urinary tract, it is possible that these bacteria came from any body part or object in close proximity to the urethra during sex. Bacteria that are found naturally on the skin, for example, may not be healthy for the urinary tract. There are many theories around UTIs and sex, and we’ll keep publishing new research as we find it. Melissa
Hi! I have never had a UTI prior to my current relationship. We started having sex practically daily since Feb 22, 2019 but I never experienced my first UTI (99% sure from the sex) until Mar 23, 2019. Now, I get them every two weeks, usually right after we have sex! He’s uncircumcised, so do you think that may be contributing? I’ve had raw intercourse with other men and have NEVER had an issue. I keep the same hygiene practice as always, but it just keeps coming back and I’m beyond confused. I’m sick of going through the same motions and just want to be normal 24/7 again.
Hi Abby, we haven’t seen any studies into a link between circumcision and UTIs, so we can’t comment on that. You might like to read the section on sex and UTIs in this article. There is also new research into the link between sex and UTI, that we hope to see published very soon. Melissa
From a Male, I have a few questions. I have a Friend Girl we see each other not all that often. We both are extremely clean. Maybe we should shower and brush right before being intimate and not let it lag but she usually get get a UTI after we have been intimate. When we are we are intimate for a good hour non-stop, orally and intercourse. Anything I can do as a male to help prevent any bacterial transfer from me to her. It hurts to see her this way, just because of me. From any type of soap or mouthwash. I am all ears, Well in this case Eyes
Hi Damianos, we have some information about UTI prevention, and UTI home remedies, which you may like to read. It might also be helpful to check out the sex and chronic UTI section of this article. If you have any questions, you can always get in touch directly. Melissa
Finally! An article that gets me! I was so relieved to find this and came across it as I woke up this morning, more symptoms, desperate I would find a new answer!
I have battled with Chronic UTIs and Cysitis for the past 10 years. I have spent hundreds if not thousands on dr appointments, specialists and antibiotics, drank gallons of cranberry and ural and I man still trying to figure it all out.
I am also on a combination of D Mannose, cranberry and probiotics which tend to help and have reduced the UTIs. As suggested by a urologist. However I believe friction, not urinating after sex or not showering before sex all contribute.
I would love to read any material you have come across that helps or is discovering any way to help avoid these awful infections!
Hi Sarah, if you haven’t already, you may like to read our information on UTI testing, and recurrent UTI treatment. And if you have any questions, you can always get in touch directly. Melissa
Hey I’m 26 have suffered with utis since I began having sex at 16. I suffered terrible at 16 and was getting UTI nearly every other time I had sex. I went through a few years where I thought I’d found a system where I could avoid them. Drinking pints of water before sex and then peeing afterwards always making sure myself and partner had showered. I’m now 26 and this last year it burns when I urinate every single time. My bladder feels swollen and I drink so much water to the point I’m shivering. Went to gynaecologist who prescribed me with nitro furantoin to take close to intercourse it works sometimes but not always. Would you recommend seeing a urologist?
Hi Sophie, sorry to hear you’re experiencing that. Many people say finding a practitioner with experience diagnosing and treating recurrent UTI was the key to helping them find answers. If you reach out to us directly we can share more info. Susy
I’ve had 2 UTIs in the past month from sex, never had one previously so came as a shock. As a uni student most of my friends have had a uti so explained the importance of seeing after sex. I went home for the holidays and found myself w the symptoms again after having a bath- urine culture negative though so I stopped taking antibiotics. Still have the symptoms but more calm since cutting out caffeine so hopefully I’m on the way up!
Since meeting my husband 7 years ago I have had UTIs. Now it’s every time after sex and I’ve started getting what I think are Bartholian cysts too. I’m a mess. I had to have IV antibiotics prescribed by my urologist after my last infection, I had to go to hospital every day after work and sit hooked up to a drip. My husband has finally agreed to see a urologist to get tested. It makes me so sad and angry that my health has deteriorated to this point.
Hi Alex, so sorry to hear you’re experiencing this. I can sympathise. I hope you find some answers soon. If there’s anything we can help with, please get in touch. Melissa
Hi Amelia, I hope you keep improving! If you have any questions, you can always write to us directly. Melissa
I’m on prophylactic antibiotics and still get a uti once a week after the once a week sex with my husband. I’ve had a cystoscopy and CT but they still have no answers. My gyno thinks a hysterectomy will help. I don’t know what to do but I need help. I’m sick all the time!
Hi Denise, can you send us a direct message with more info on where you’re based, so we can share any resources via email? Melissa
I pee before and after intercourses and it’s not helping. I think that it is because I pee before it and when it is time to pee after it there’s not enough pee to flush out the bacteria. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and this happens every once in a while( even before him with other partners) but it I has been happening a lot lately. I can’t stand it anymore! Should I just reserve the pee to afterwards instead of before and after?
I’m not certain this is factually correct about “partners giving UTIs during intercourse”. You may want to correct your reference there.
Hi Jamie, I think we can agree that there is no doubt that organisms can be passed back and forth between partners during sexual activity. While we typically think of this in terms of STIs, UTI-causing organisms can be passed back and forth in the same way. Whether a UTI results from this is not a given of course. We have spoken with a number of UTI specialists who frequently test the sexual partner, and often find that treatment of both partners is necessary. We are also aware of research specifically into this topic, and we look forward to seeing more of this in the future. Melissa
Hi Lena, there isn’t a lot of scientific evidence around peeing before or after sex. It’s more of a theory, and some people find one or the other or both helps, while others don’t. We can’t recommend a particular approach. There are other things you may want to look into and we’ve covered many aspects of recurrent UTI on our site. You can also send us a direct message if you have questions after checking out our other information. Melissa
I got a fluke UTI in 2016 and had lots of sex issue free since then. Enter dream boat best relationship of my life in 2018 and UTI after UTI a total of 4 back to back within the span of a few months. I discovered d-mannose, and as long as I take that religiously I’m fine. However, I’d like to get to the root cause. What could my boyfriend be contributing to the mix here? He was tested for STDs as per usual and came back clean. He’s a keeper and I can’t even imagine not being with him as I’ve already gone through a divorce. Hopefully I can find some answers here.
Hello.I think, I got UTI after sex. Last month, I visit the Dr. Twice and they give me antibiotics. What will I do to prevent this scenario. Can you help me? Thank you.
Hi Apple, you might want to start with our information on UTI testing, and recurrent vs chronic UTI. Then you can always get in touch directly if you have any questions. Melissa
Ania did you find the root’s cause? My story is exactly as yours. Best, Ana
Hi Ania, I got your other messages too, and will wait for you to get in touch directly with some more info, so I can share any resources that may be helpful. Melissa
Could I get these resources as well? Ania’s story is 100% my exact situation too. Thanks!
Hi Devon, if you send us a message directly we can share more info. Susy